A Step in Building Your Self Confidence
Everything has to start somewhere. Unless you start building your self-confidence, you will have to agonize endlessly with the very thing you are fearful of- low self-confidence.
Our self-confidence is the accumulation of all our reactions to the experiences that life brought us, the manner by which we were guided by the older people in our environment, and how we and society view us. Many factors are contributors to our personal understanding of confidence.
One determining factor is how much we expect from ourselves and the circumstances we are in. Many tend to fall into the trap of creating unrealistic expectations. In the process, their losses are becoming so painful that they eventually suffer the effects of creating lower self-confidence. Others, on the other hand, lean more toward playing it safe and thus create more achievable goals to attain. Achievements build your self-confidence, so these people benefit from knowing that they are capable of doing something.
You may already have heard the phrase- “it’s all in the mind”. In many psychological and emotional conditions, we can actually say that it’s all in the mind. They are rooted and develop from the mind and so, the antidote comes from the same source.
You can always condition yourself to feel the way you want or to feel the way you don’t want. You can suppress emotions and in the process, help emotions materialize. Say you feel hatred for yourself over not being good enough. If you make yourself believe in that hatred and you truly are convinced that you are not good enough, then you will only get two results- one, genuine hatred, and two, lower self-esteem.
The majority of us are caught unaware of our words. We sometimes fail to check ourselves for the things we are registering in our subconscious minds.
You may not have deliberately said it recently but since you are used to hearing yourself mumble- “I am a loser”, or “I’m not worthy of anything”, your subconscious self might as well believe that these are the facts.
Even now as we speak, many out there believe in these statements.
They are not mere words. They are for real and they will actually dig deep into your subconscious mind, which will then be integrated into your being. If you believe in these then there is no way that you won’t believe in their direct opposite.
Central to building self-confidence is one’s belief in himself. Whatever you set your mind to believe will all be taken as factual. Thus, you only have to manipulate the values that you would like to acquire. Otherwise, no amount of waiting can make you change. The motivation must come from you. Suggestions may come from outward sources but in the end, it will be you and yourself that will set out to do the battle.
Changes must begin with you. So, you may start by talking to yourself using positive statements like “you are great” (for you truly are a great individual waiting for your talents to be tapped). Or “you are beautiful”.
You can build your self-confidence. So, somehow, you have to change your perspectives and live a different life that looks forward to better things.
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